Marriage – seems to be something that takes you off board literally, as a girl moves away from her home to a new home.
In matter of no time, this happens and I too went through this transition 2 months back!
No doubt I had bounds of fear that cannot be expressed. And I learnt that every girl who becomes a woman after marriage goes through the same.
Fear of being accepted,
Fear of being a “good” daughter-in-law,
Fear of being a “good” wife,
Fear of being a “good” sister-in-law,
Fear of being a “good” co-sister,
Fear of being a “good” aunt for tomorrow,
Fear of change,
Fear of living together,
Fear of household chores,
Fear of work-personal life balance,
Fear of financial troubles,
Fear of differences,
Fear of pleasing relatives,
And so on…..
I've ordered the relationship fears exactly the way it’s prioritized for always in our Indian society, being a “good” daughter-in-law fulfills half the “good” wife requirement. J
Accepting the new people as family is toughest for me. I have had situations where I couldn’t easily take in them as “my” family. I still refer my mom, dad, grandma and the others with whom I grew up as “my family”.
We all learn from our mistakes and so from others… but every woman/individual has to experience this and learn something new by herself/themselves.
Here are some moments which I would like to recapture on the changes I’ve gone through and enjoyed too…
The day I got engaged, that was the first time I got to meet all my in-laws relatives. I was scared to be accepted by all, because the entire audience of relatives hadn’t seen me before.
But I was shocked and overwhelmed to find that they accepted and welcomed me with full hands!!
The love transmitted in smiles and welcomes… I felt accepted for the first time.
It was almost 2 weeks of pressure I had on this, before engagement.
Courtship – a beautiful time where two people entering into bond of marriage, try to impress each other the best they can to give an assurance to the other that this person is my “perfect” life partner.
I had a period of 4 months and I must tell you, I enjoyed it even more for it wasn’t the way I stated before. I experienced to see a person who was casual and not trying to impress the girl he was going to marry. A practical one!!
I dint have any head over heel moments but definitely could see myself entering into a future of matured relationship.
The reassurance I got through this was high, it could be because of my age too where I wasn’t in for any such flirt talks but I never regretted for not having one either.
As wedding was nearing, the demands in the relationship changed. The fears increased as we were just being two people getting to know each other with no expectation!
I was stunned at myself for this….
Am sure the groom also has his part of fears and they are known easily in the conversations J
The wedding planner begins… the attires, dress rehearsals, honeymoon, mehendi etc…
These are indeed the best part of pre-marriage!!
And I thoroughly enjoyed every bit of this and that. The tension, stress, endless shopping, packing etc.
This is one time and we must cherish and live the moment by enjoying it.
Started counting the days that I was going to be home. Excited and scared!
The wedding day arrived…. OMG… quick…
Wedding is over!!!!!!!!!!!
And am married now….
This is how quick the marriage happens after the months of fear and excitement!!
Sometimes I wondered, did I do all the spending for this one day???
But when I see the pictures and videos, definitely worth it!!!
Happiness of your family and friends, boundless!
Smiles and tears rolling off your loved ones cannot be captured in words.
I really got to see lot of loving moments during my marriage and I will cherish those throughout my life!
And yea, I just got married…. But the encounter of marriage is to be continued….
In matter of no time, this happens and I too went through this transition 2 months back!
No doubt I had bounds of fear that cannot be expressed. And I learnt that every girl who becomes a woman after marriage goes through the same.
Fear of being accepted,
Fear of being a “good” daughter-in-law,
Fear of being a “good” wife,
Fear of being a “good” sister-in-law,
Fear of being a “good” co-sister,
Fear of being a “good” aunt for tomorrow,
Fear of change,
Fear of living together,
Fear of household chores,
Fear of work-personal life balance,
Fear of financial troubles,
Fear of differences,
Fear of pleasing relatives,
And so on…..
I've ordered the relationship fears exactly the way it’s prioritized for always in our Indian society, being a “good” daughter-in-law fulfills half the “good” wife requirement. J
Accepting the new people as family is toughest for me. I have had situations where I couldn’t easily take in them as “my” family. I still refer my mom, dad, grandma and the others with whom I grew up as “my family”.
We all learn from our mistakes and so from others… but every woman/individual has to experience this and learn something new by herself/themselves.
Here are some moments which I would like to recapture on the changes I’ve gone through and enjoyed too…
The day I got engaged, that was the first time I got to meet all my in-laws relatives. I was scared to be accepted by all, because the entire audience of relatives hadn’t seen me before.
But I was shocked and overwhelmed to find that they accepted and welcomed me with full hands!!
The love transmitted in smiles and welcomes… I felt accepted for the first time.
It was almost 2 weeks of pressure I had on this, before engagement.
Courtship – a beautiful time where two people entering into bond of marriage, try to impress each other the best they can to give an assurance to the other that this person is my “perfect” life partner.
I had a period of 4 months and I must tell you, I enjoyed it even more for it wasn’t the way I stated before. I experienced to see a person who was casual and not trying to impress the girl he was going to marry. A practical one!!
I dint have any head over heel moments but definitely could see myself entering into a future of matured relationship.
The reassurance I got through this was high, it could be because of my age too where I wasn’t in for any such flirt talks but I never regretted for not having one either.
As wedding was nearing, the demands in the relationship changed. The fears increased as we were just being two people getting to know each other with no expectation!
I was stunned at myself for this….
Am sure the groom also has his part of fears and they are known easily in the conversations J
The wedding planner begins… the attires, dress rehearsals, honeymoon, mehendi etc…
These are indeed the best part of pre-marriage!!
And I thoroughly enjoyed every bit of this and that. The tension, stress, endless shopping, packing etc.
This is one time and we must cherish and live the moment by enjoying it.
Started counting the days that I was going to be home. Excited and scared!
The wedding day arrived…. OMG… quick…
Wedding is over!!!!!!!!!!!
And am married now….
This is how quick the marriage happens after the months of fear and excitement!!
Sometimes I wondered, did I do all the spending for this one day???
But when I see the pictures and videos, definitely worth it!!!
Happiness of your family and friends, boundless!
Smiles and tears rolling off your loved ones cannot be captured in words.
I really got to see lot of loving moments during my marriage and I will cherish those throughout my life!
And yea, I just got married…. But the encounter of marriage is to be continued….
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