God please help me!!!

Its been years since I wrote I guess. Am not even sure on what to write but I want to write :D

Let me direct this blog on a random thought on my progress so far from my last writing to today in professional and personal front.
Personally, a lot of things happening around. My daughter is one year old. She is trying to walk. She loves to babble all day long. She crawls so quick that I have to run behind her.
She has such a beautiful smile that makes all of us make us feel like in heaven! She is an angel.

She still loves mickey mouse :)
She watches the rhymes in repeat mode and very picky on it. If its something that she doesn't like, communicates easily by either crying or throwing the phone away!!!
and you must understand, she doesn't like it!  And it needs to be changed immediately.

She has now learnt well to put smaller items into a bigger. Building barrels one top of another and building blocks to throw away!!
she plays well with her nephews and calls him anna.

A lot about her and my dear Shriya when you read it someday, don't ask me more questions...
Amma might have forgotten.
I'll make sure to save the videos for you :)

we are still in Bangalore, earnestly trying to wind up but nothing in favour!
Bangalore is getting tough for a day to day living here.
And I hear this from many, so Bengaluru... don't get offended with this and do be angry on me.
Be merciful. I am still a bangalorian!! ;)

Talking about Bangalore, Yaayyy now I have a new topic for my next blog ;)
My personal skills and abilities haven't changed but not utilized to the fullest.
The baby care and household chores takes my time off that I don't really get to do something extra.
But I'll make sure to do it regularly here after. No more excuses!

On the professional front, I work as a test analyst in TCS ( the same as while my previous blog ) just that into a new project post maternity.
The work here is pretty usual – unusual. And dealing with the people is the biggest challenge.
Am trying to find ways to understand and deviate from people who seem a friend... no no... they are not . OMG am not even sure what kinda people.!!!
Not wanting to manipulate at the same time knowing they are manipulative makes me terrible at mathematics!!!!

The work seems manageable but the workplace and the people around are a challenge.
Everywhere its the people who are challenging to handle and that makes the difference in individuals. Some people are very good at handling others and they seem to be happy at the end of the day.
This is what matters and am also learning to handle my situations to get the best out of me.
Alright !!!!! its too confusing and philosophical otherwise, so to put it short...
God please help me!!!!!!

Picture Perfect!

I was going through my honeymoon pics and other pictures a year old on my google plus ( thanks to google plus / picasa web albums for helping us save these pictures, where today we don’t really go and print our pics). A memory of its own….

It’s not the beauty of the pictures or how young I looked a year (I was definitely younger and thinner than today) that came to my mind, but the relationship and the times I shared with the people in the picture that flashed through my mind.

“Whatever is the current status of your relationship with the people in the pics, the pictures remind you of great memories together and will help you relive the moments and forget the ego and fights you’re having currently”

Of late having been too busy with myself that I don’t really take much pics and upload. I have decided to take more pics and definitely once my baby is born…. It’s going to be all along picture time!! Yaayy!!!

When I see my childhood pics, I get reminded of all the colorful moments and people I grew up with. Its indeed the most cherishing thing in anyone’s childhood and I definitely want to give my baby too a good memory.

So … here everybody….

Let’s take a selfie pulla ;) 

Opinion Matters

Yes, we all have an opinion on anything and everything….

The title can be read in two ways

1.       The blog describes about opinion as a matter

2.       An individual’s opinion matters to himself/herself

I want to share the space to talk about both here. There are lots of situations in life where we feel we have an opinion but do not share it out. This could be about a person or an organization or a movie or the government at large. Could be anything!!

From as simple as a response of a person to a question of yours to as big as elections we have opinions. There is no hard and fast rule that we cannot have thoughts/opinion about a matter (anything and everything).

Opinion on person is sometimes termed as “Judging”. On the other hand on any other already talked about thing, it’s just an opinion.

For e.g.: if someone says you not working well or that you have to show initiatives (yes, I work in “the” IT industry, it’s always rat race) it’s an opinion…. So what if the fellow person thinks of you like that, so do you have an opinion on him/her. Be it from a small mail sent out or to social relationships.

I do not think here, the opinion about you by another person should matter to you. What’s important is how you feel and think about yourself.

Anyone can have an opinion on anything under the sun. Some of them are:

Why the earth is called earth? Why this political party did this action? What does CM do? What does a police officer do? What does your manager work? Why is your peer sending such emails?  Why your husband dint call? Why why why….

So many matters to have opinion on…

Lastly, it doesn't matter what opinion others have on you or you have on others, it’s more important to have a self-assessment and be worth of what you are. 

2015 here I come….

So… 2014 is over?!!! Quick as a breeze…  the year passed so quickly that I don’t even know if I have accomplished and lived the 365 days of the year….!!

Some of my goals of 2014 were reached, the rest to be carried forward to 2015!!

This has been happening almost every year since I started with the practice… so no issues J

Let’s give this woman a little nod to this and not take a toll on it anymore… already a lot has happened over the year…

Took a lot of family trips to various cities/ states including Kerala, Ooty, Madurai and of course my fav Chennai!!

The trips were very tiring that I really needed a break from tripping!!

I did get that break too….

Apart from these, another great happening that 2015 awaits for is… Am gonna be a mom!!!!

OMG OMG OMG

Now am in my 6^th month of pregnancy and my baby is expected to arrive on April 23^rd, 2015!!

Yaay!!!

2015 welcomes him/her J

I have been so busy through the last 6 months completely into this pregnancy and its care.

Back to back consultations, medicines, scans, tests etc etc etc…

Been a ride…. And still on!

Haven’t been even blogging long since this. Yet am glad I can share this space to introduce 2015 as a year where my role changes and everything I can’t think of now!

My work life has now taken a step back, though am still working; I just stick to my timelines and no attempt to fight the cat race. Just do my job!!

Lot of planning on the baby and my health keeps me busy.

This year though has the start of 2 new members to our family (mine and my sister’s), we lost our grandmother in Oct. I still cannot believe she is not around… That I have moved to a different city after marriage, I still feel she is home… safe and taking rest.

When I go there back, am definitely gonna miss her. She has been everything to me since I know and she has raised me with all pampering that a small down in my life, I feel it’s because of her absence.

2014 to summarize has been a year of experience in every walk of life.

I have learnt a lot professionally and personally. Still learning to handle few situations where I feel I am not matured enough yet. They are all experiences. And am definitely growing….

2015 here I come for a bigger and brighter future…. Save the calendar for my baby and his/her happiness!

Happy New Year!!!

A Year ...

A year? OMG…. I just cannot believe it myself….

It’s been a year since I got married and yay it is my Anniversary day today!!!

First Wedding Anniversary!!!

I feel like I have achieved something big in life. Probably the last 2/3 months I have been waiting for this day. This milestone to be achieved…

I don’t know how exhausted am going to get by the time we reach 25 years of marriage!!

But the feeling that you have cleared a milestone and a genuine one in my case, feels awesome!!

Am saying genuine because, I have no big complains in my marriage. 

As posted in my previous blog, Marriage – An encounter, it is so true…. Which I still stand by with the proud moment of having experienced it for a year now!!

Yes, I continued the momentum of marriage as an encounter and luckily for me, my husband Sriram also gave way for it. Without him it would have been impossible for me to say these….

A year of positives… the first year of marriage is definitely bliss. It’s the initial months you are completely thrown to a stranger (in my case) where every dimension of the person whom you’re sharing the roof with is completely new. This holds good for both.

I have believed before marriage that, the first year is always loving as we try to be the nicest possible and with no revealing of the split personality within us. One year is somehow still very long a period to stay not so you. At least 50% of your split would have been revealed by now, is my opinion.

Yes, and if your spouse can put up with your 50% and you can put up with his/her 50% then definitely there need not be any hesitation to take the first year of marriage a celebration!!

I know am creating a big drama as if am an expert when compared to couples who have celebrated 10, 15, 25 years of marriage!!

I can sense that… but mine is an achievement too in my books and I would like to cherish this.

And hey… my mom has got me an anniversary gift and I cannot wait to see what surprises Sriram has for me…. So definitely an important reason to celebrate!!

Alright…. My anniversary day has begun now and I cannot wait to see how my day goes!!

Happy Wedding Anniversary Krupa and Sriram!!

A step ahead…

Every day is learning, we say. Until schooling this made sense, later I wondered what’s there to learn. Am too young to talk on life etc…

So what??!!  everyone speaks, so let me also!!! ;)

I know my nieces share life questioning thoughts on Facebook, am definitely a little more experienced and want to share my piece…

Yes, the learning curve does not start and end with Math, Science and arts… its more!!

Life means? I really don’t know…

Life teaches you something? I really don’t know…

Life is just living? I really don’t know…

But what I know is, life is me… and my life is mine.

It encloses everything – breathing, family, friends, siblings, love, relationships, society, country, world, happiness, joy, sadness, hatred, fun, work, money and so on….

It’s endless and there are more you want to add… that you started popping up…

Hey u missed marriage, travel, music…

Yes yes, each of us has our definition!!

I’m working in IT sector, married and in a different city to where I grew up.

Am least comfortable and completely new to all!!!

I make tons of mistakes every day. Am not sure how to handle them but it’s the mistakes that make me learn what not to do.

Maybe this is life, where every day you are taught, to compete with self and to be a better person than what you were yesterday.

And I know, am a step ahead than yesterday in learning to handle people, my work, my interests and everything that I feel is part of life ….

And yes, am still not 60 to talk about life and experience, but every day makes me feel bolder and not just older J

Girl with pony

She was crossing by in a scooter with her dad. Two cute ponies that were pointed up and open like a flower, shaking her head left to right, dancing to her own tunes.

She was singing happily standing on the scooter while her dad was driving.

He was a serious man. She was the opposite!!

She had no idea how the man driving her was looking or feeling J

On her way to play school, maybe, she caught my attention…

We all talk about kids and their behavior. How they always keep smiling or keep themselves busy in their own world. We should learn from them.

This girl, a fraction of 30 seconds, made me feel good as I was travelling to work.

She was happy, singing, shaking to her songs.

On the other hand, I was feeling frustrated for reasons that were not under my control?

On seeing her, she immediately brought a smile in me. A kind of relief I had within me.

I felt calm and peace. And I smiled all the way to office thinking about this little girl.

True happiness lies within you… 

Selfie season!!

Yes… it’s the selfie season now, where we see so many people posting their pics on social sites titled “Selfie”. It’s a new craze and we social beings are so obsessed with self that we forget the reason behind the pictures being taken.

Social networking has come a long way. Technology has come a long way from where this social life has come into existence. I understand it’s great to have “such” forums where people can interact and keep in touch with their friends who are separated by distance.

But to my amusement, even people living in the same house, use this medium to talk!!

Sad plight of people’s priorities…

The attention seeking mechanism of these selfies, comments, sharing ideologies etc are leading to?!!

I remember 10 years back when internet was booming, people used it for e-mail, googling, education etc. Now, it’s more for a social interaction with ease of using.

I’m happy we are changing to the changes happening, getting used to the new technical advances.

Not fearing the changes of innovations.

But aren’t we missing on the minute realistic moments which are the greatest memory to cherish?

Taking pictures of self and sharing with your loved ones is great!

Taking pictures of self and family and treasuring them for life is happiness…

Taking pictures of self and feeling good about self is motivation….

But taking pictures of self and posting it on social network just to get attention and feeling dejected and demotivated if not liked is stupid …

Friends, lets realize that world is not the internet and people there are virtual only!!

Get to the real life and live with contempt!

Attention!! Attention!!!

We all need attention… from our parents, friends, family, at work and society. This has become a minimal expectation.

I read an article recently which talked about the “attention” one needs and receives on FaceBook!

Yes… it’s the place where all young/old are seeking attention.

The article read that people are getting dejected and demotivated if their posts or pics are not liked or shared by their followers.

OMG!! Yes… we all need attention…

We are looking for it in the virtual world instead of real?!!

In real also, attention is a must and every individual needs it.

Be it rich or poor, boy or girl, young or old.

Kids get attention always… they are cheerful and happy. So do elders need... I am sure you must have faced a time when you wanted attention, from someone?

Mothers always give attention to her children at all ages….

Attention – to be given and got! Give attention to your kith and keen. And you will get back in bounds.

The social attention through facebook is just a way to feel good on social life but it noway should influence us or our confidence.

Remember friends,

NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT!

Miss Bride

My friend got engaged yesterday and shared some of her pics. She looked beautiful. The make-up, pattu saree, the ornaments. Wow… All looked great!!

The most important of all is the attention!!!

Yes… the attention we get on our wedding day is amazing…

I really wish I was bride again! J

I want to get dressed up in nice sarees and jewelry with different hair styles make-up, friends gathered around, making fun of you… teasing you for the changes gonna happen. Your relatives around waiting to see you get on stage.

This is one place where all the attention and eyes are on YOU!

My wedding happened 4 months back and I still remember how much fun it was. The wedding planner, shopping, relatives, friends and the hall, decorations!! Everything was overwhelming.

The food – yes, we attend weddings to eat good food, but when it was my wedding, with all the happening around, and the excitement … food became secondary.

There were lots of things happening.

I really got to say this to all the to-be-brides, sooner or later, do take care and spend time for your accessories and make-up, you will love it!

Enjoy the whole process.

It’s fun!!

Don’t over spend though but don’t limit yourself, for it doesn’t happen every day.

The pictures are the memories, so you should look great!!

I’ve always felt, who ever getting married, she/he looks amazing that day.

They have the charm in them and the glow.

And yeaaaa I still wanna be married again… not for a new husband but the whole function is like a festival!!

I miss being a bride… 

Disturbed

What’s the problem??!! Why is this happening always??!!

Is there no end to this crap on women?

No punishment is gonna stop these violent “men”?

On hearing the news about two of my colleagues, I don’t even know them, but just hearing this and knowing and relating them to the work place I had worked few months back only makes me sooo disturbed.

Siru seri in Chennai is no doubt a forest away from the city. It’s scary in the evenings to go out alone.

Whom to be blamed?!!

Ruthless behavior….

There are n number of such incidents, why some caused nation breakthrough… what’s the use?

Who has changed coz of it? It’s gotten worse…. I guess!

The fear of being punished if found culprit, has made them do a bigger mistake by not leaving any hint of the incident and now not even trace of the victim….

Not that I wanna refer her victim…. But we are all victims to this!!

Not able to change the society but sit at one corner typing all this to get the anger out of me….

We are victims to this unfair society!!

Starting from home to public places, women are always considered lesser… lesser in what? Everything?

Dunno why!!

Women have to be safe… that’s the end point stated …

Alright… there are tons of articles, newsletters, blogs where people talk and debate about this.

Even then there is no end… and this is my part of anguish…

The pain and agony she must have gone through is incomparable to what we write or how much we talk about it.

An unfair society…

Marriage - an encounter... contd...

Yeah… back to my encounter on marriage…

The changes after marriage are huge, starting from change of place to living…

Am still in my initial months of marriage, that’s how I tell myself to still feel like a new bride…

It is a great feeling. The days after marriage are a little embarrassing initially with you know what J

As time passes, I got used to it and so I guess the people around too.

Am a feminist and I respect every woman for the changes she goes through, how she accustoms to it.

My mother, mother in law, grandmother, aunt, sisters, friends….

After marriage, the respect has multiplied by bounds! I can relate how they would have handled it and managed.

My friend and I were discussing the same, she is married too. She was telling how much time she took to adjust and accustom to the changes.

25 plus years living comfortably in one place, under a roof where every room and wall is your friend. Moving to a totally different place within city or outside, that place is always alien and never feel or refer it as home!

But women do finally take that as their home... That’s the power of women!

For men, it is easy… coz it’s always been their home.  But still I appreciate men for managing between mother and wife attempting to make the wife comfortable in her new home.

Relatives – it is another big challenge… and relatives of relatives is further complicated.

Now you have thrice the relatives as compared to before marriage. It was ok not to enquire or talk on phone or not visiting relatives and their relatives, but after marriage… you are bound to do all that.

May be not all compel in this generation, but I guess still in some families it’s expected.

Thankfully not the case in mine J I am glad!!

But definitely, relatives make a change and their talks and comments…

I suggest “ignore”. That’s the best way to get them out of our line.

“Ignorance is bliss”, truly applicable and best after marriage.

Next comes responsibilities. Before marriage all girls, atleast most of us, don’t have much responsibilities. We have our parents to take care of every little thing.

But once married, even if you have in-laws and other important relatives, you should be responsible. From the house’s cleanliness to assets… That’s a big change which I guess people expect in a day!

Give the woman a little time, it’s there in every woman and she will definitely come out successful.

This pressure is not only in the in-laws side, even in our mother’s. My family will get a good name only if I adhere and follow the above. That’s their thought.

Gimme a break, lot of woman do all this, still they don’t have that good impression. Why struggle.

I suggest, take your time…. First get to know your new family, coz they are important. Your husband. Spend more time with him and make the best use of the first year to impress him the best coz that relation is the foundation for the rest.

COOOKINGGGGG… can I stress more on that? No way!

I am definitely not a good cook and I don’t cook only. My mother in law does and she does it amazingly well that I can never make it like her. So why give competition? ;)

The same pressure from mother’s side as in the above case continues here and sometimes more stressed!

My friend says, a family and impressing them starts from kitchen. So true…..

No doubt you can reach all of their hearts through good tasty loving food. So again take your time for this. Coz first impression is best impression. So learn good cooking, am sure it’s not hard. Just need the right time to do it. Use it.

Don’t compete for the kitchen. If you are in a joint family, give the mother the space she owned in her kitchen all the years. Don’t try to take over. She’ll get offended.  Grow with her in the kitchen and make it as OUR kitchen!!

Attending weddings and other relative’s functions – pressure to look good and impressive. Talk a lot. Smile always…

We attended a marriage recently in another city along with my in-laws.

I was following the “rules” to attend a function as above and yeah… my smile… guess I over did that ;)

One of my relatives commented that … “Oh… come here, where is she the one who smiles a lot”

It was embarrassing, not knowing how to be. I was confused. So should I smile or not???

Again I follow – IGNORE!!

So friends, marriage isn't that hard, just take it as the next event in your life… like education/work so on…

Don’t dread it (I used to earlier). It’s the next occurrence in life… An encounter

I am still in the start, but sharing and learning every bit of it makes it more interesting.

Marriage as an encounter

Marriage – seems to be something that takes you off board literally, as a girl moves away from her home to a new home.

In matter of no time, this happens and I too went through this transition 2 months back!
No doubt I had bounds of fear that cannot be expressed. And I learnt that every girl who becomes a woman after marriage goes through the same.

Fear of being accepted,
Fear of being a “good” daughter-in-law,
Fear of being a “good” wife,
Fear of being a “good” sister-in-law,
Fear of being a “good” co-sister,
Fear of being a “good” aunt for tomorrow,
Fear of change,
Fear of living together,
Fear of household chores,
Fear of work-personal life balance,
Fear of financial troubles,
Fear of differences,
Fear of pleasing relatives,
And so on…..

I've ordered the relationship fears exactly the way it’s prioritized for always in our Indian society, being a “good” daughter-in-law fulfills half the “good” wife requirement. J

Accepting the new people as family is toughest for me. I have had situations where I couldn’t easily take in them as “my” family.  I still refer my mom, dad, grandma and the others with whom I grew up as “my family”.

We all learn from our mistakes and so from others… but every woman/individual has to experience this and learn something new by herself/themselves.

Here are some moments which I would like to recapture on the changes I’ve gone through and enjoyed too…
The day I got engaged, that was the first time I got to meet all my in-laws relatives. I was scared to be accepted by all, because the entire audience of relatives hadn’t seen me before.
But I was shocked and overwhelmed to find that they accepted and welcomed me with full hands!!
The love transmitted in smiles and welcomes… I felt accepted for the first time.
It was almost 2 weeks of pressure I had on this, before engagement.

Courtship – a beautiful time where two people entering into bond of marriage, try to impress each other the best they can to give an assurance to the other that this person is my “perfect” life partner.
I had a period of 4 months and I must tell you, I enjoyed it even more for it wasn’t the way I stated before. I experienced to see a person who was casual and not trying to impress the girl he was going to marry. A practical one!!
I dint have any head over heel moments but definitely could see myself entering into a future of matured relationship.

The reassurance I got through this was high, it could be because of my age too where I wasn’t in for any such flirt talks but I never regretted for not having one either.

As wedding was nearing, the demands in the relationship changed. The fears increased as we were just being two people getting to know each other with no expectation!
I was stunned at myself for this….

Am sure the groom also has his part of fears and they are known easily in the conversations J
The wedding planner begins… the attires, dress rehearsals, honeymoon, mehendi etc…
These are indeed the best part of pre-marriage!!

And I thoroughly enjoyed every bit of this and that. The tension, stress, endless shopping, packing etc.
This is one time and we must cherish and live the moment by enjoying it.

Started counting the days that I was going to be home. Excited and scared!
The wedding day arrived…. OMG… quick…
Wedding is over!!!!!!!!!!!
And am married now….

This is how quick the marriage happens after the months of fear and excitement!!
Sometimes I wondered, did I do all the spending for this one day???
But when I see the pictures and videos, definitely worth it!!!

Happiness of your family and friends, boundless!
Smiles and tears rolling off your loved ones cannot be captured in words.
I really got to see lot of loving moments during my marriage and I will cherish those throughout my life!

And yea, I just got married…. But the encounter of marriage is to be continued…. 

Oh!!! its the last day of 2013???!!!!

2013, yes… it’s going to get over and today is the last day of this year…

Usually every New Year as it begins and the previous year ends, I get excited, but somehow today I feel it’s just another day!!!!!!!!!

Why so?

Getting old gets us practical? Or is it that the other things which are more important take priority…
I wish I had an answer… something missing. No idea what?!!

December 31, 2013 …. A day to remember? When I looked at the calendar today, it made me realize I never even noticed we are nearing the end of a year, where a lot of things happened in my life this year…

This year is special to me for several reasons. Still, something feels vacant, with no excitement for the New Year coming. Every time I try to cheer myself up with this, I feel am forcing me to do so.

“It’s never the same” … I keep repeating this to myself.

2013 – I really don’t know what happened in the outside world that I was concentrating so much on myself and the things happening around in my life.

Life must move on so does the days and the calendar.

 So 2013, am sorry that I have nothing great to take forward expect for a few important life changing event in my life. Even though, a life changing event, am worried and wondering what’s gonna happen next and how am gonna handle it.

So …. Bbye 2013….

Dear Diary?

Today was a different day for me indeed. I did have the habit of entering my daily diary.But in the last 2 years I have never done that at all. But I decided to have a

look at my old ones and to my surprise or horror... man my life has been soooo boring!!
The same problems, same complains for 5 years??? That's a lot.. and I even realized that I hadn't changed a bit in my thoughts but just that I stopped entering them on

a daily basis maybe because I was lazy to write the same thing?!!!

I read through some of my pages and I had cribbed about the same happenings, there are hardly few entries with happy days and how would I know with the many many 1000

pages I had written in ages.
I literally decided to trash them away!!
Yes; I started tearing away every page I had written; some were blank and I felt so bad for wasting that paper...

There are times in life we would like to look back who we were and where we stand now , right?
But its a nightmare to know that you have not changed in areas you wanted to change. The "I" and "conscious" factor in us know this... that I have become worse!!

Am not ashamed to admit this because if I don't now; I would never...

Since schooling we are taught to write our diary but we must also learn what to write in that because the impact on it after years is huge like this.
Writing good things and challenges in your day to day life helps you in knowing where you stand and what needs to be done next. There is no use sulking about things

not in your hands especially PEOPLE!
Some learning are to yourself and I too learnt tons from my diary today... and what to write what not to write.
Its more than the writing, I realized where I have been wrong and the mistakes I have been doing which requires an immediate action for correction from me!!

So today, I tore away all my old written diaries and I feel a relief within me.
Yes its the same feeling that I saw in movies too when they burn their x's photo or phone number or anything old and unnecessary bad memories!

Maybe its a good step to see a new us! It wont happen over night; its a slow process but at least a start by throwing away bad memories carrying only the learning out

of it.

Alright... its getting too serious now... So how many of you think its really worth penning your diary with every incident happening?
I believe I should still continue to pen my thoughts and feelings like this blog; but a little more personal. This will definitely help us be a better person not just

tomorrow; but EVERYDAY!

Diary is like music; some songs always remind us of people and incidents in life that took the bad path...

The point of no return

In life, we do make a lot of mistakes and lose our control. Earlier I used to think it was
only death which brought an end to a relationship with a person and that it was “the point
of no return”. At least that is how my life was…

But recently, a particular relationship taught me that an end and a point of no return came
even when the two people are around each other.
Some people in our life come and go; it doesn’t hurt us when those who leave are not
important to us. But when we consider someone important and they leave us, life seems
like a misery… a misfortune…

The reasons behind this partition could be any, from misunderstandings to fights or sheer
understanding to let go the person. Could be anything!!!!!!!!

But the truth hits us hard when we realize that, that person is no more part of your life…
It did for me. THE POINT OF NO RETURN to the relationship we shared.

Many times we try to work out things, to change or what ever. But it’s not possible.
Maybe it’s what we are and sometimes it’s how we react to what we get!

It could be lame to give reasons for our losses and mistakes but if we keep on blaming
our self, we will get no where!!

These are lessons and everything happens for a reason. I believe strongly in that!
There cannot be learning without a mistake and it cannot be a mistake while learning…

Believe me my friend, if a relationship is very important for you; never even get to “the
point of no return” by yourself for it might hurt you more than when it happens naturally.

Is it just a card?

Yesterday, I was just going through some of my old stuff and I found a dozen of greeting cards. It took me back years and wondered if I am even in touch with some of them.


Cards have words; but do those mean anything?

Some friends had given me “Friends Forever” cards and we aren’t even in touch today. But definitely it helped me in bringing back the memory who I was and what I am today.

The current emotions of a person are expressed as words and so do the cards have…

Indeed am very glad that those who gave me the cards were in that emotion and am thankful to them for having had the time and thought to get me one.

We should value these cards and treasure them for sometime, for when you’re all alone all by yourself; all you might have is these cards to kindle your good memories!

Maybe am not in touch with many of the friends who had shared such stuff with me in earlier years, but definitely we are there in each other’s memories and have learnt a lot through them. This is why they say maybe –

Life is like a book and every person you meet is a chapter!!

Some chapters end, some chapters are yet to begin…

And in every ending there is a new beginning…. :)
So let me not really criticize someone for sharing a card with just WORDS and take them as a gift to help me move on and make me feel who I was and where am I today….

And which I like better… because the choice of who you want to be is in your hands...

Life is never a fairy tale

Life is never a fairy tale. Every moment has a surprise waiting for you…

Life always teaches you lessons in the toughest way possible. It cannot decide who you are but can show
you who you can become.
I personally value people and relationships the most in life and I realized the value of someone only
when they are not with me. Why did I even have to go the extent of making a mistake to come to this
realization?

Your rough patches in life reveal the worst in you that you yourself wouldn't have imagined.
On the positive side, it’s during these rough patches that you can see how much you value self with
confidence to fight over it.

It happened to me too. I felt so little about my actions. My behavior. It was new, I dint know I that's how I would react to it.
I always needed a motivation from someone who would support me. Someone who is close to me and
someone who would only say “You’re right Krupa”. We do go and seek for consolation only from such
people right… because no self is ready to accept he or she is wrong…

That’s when I asked myself – why no self-motivation?
And I answered myself -> when you are questioned about yourself by another person (not self), you
can have a reason to explain your actions but when you question YOURSELF about your actions, a self-
motivation is never possible. That’s when you seek a friend to understand who you are sometimes.

But please note my friend that, no amount of blaming can take you even a step forward.
These are just rough patches in life and I tell myself to get over them that – “No one can make you feel
inferior without your consent”.

Emotionally Tangled

What does emotion mean?

A natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others

This is what the dictionary says….

It is indeed a feeling, an instinctive act of a living being reacting to a situation.

Each living react differently to the same situation is hand, sometimes.

This is the emotional quotient of him or her.

This EQ takes over the IQ of people in situations and that’s what I call Emotionally Tangled!

 I define Emotionally Tangled as a state of confusion whether to take a decision over a situation applying your emotions or intelligence.

This is completely objective and perspective to the situation in hand.

Women are considered to be the emotionally weaker gender. It is true because they get attached to people emotionally and any dejection is hard for her to accept.

However, the time she takes to get over an emotional breakdown could be faster than that of a male counterpart because she lets out her emotions whereas men keep it to themselves.

Medically, I have read that, this is the reason the number of men having heart attacks are more than of women. Men keep their emotions to themselves and end up getting stressed.

In today’s practical world, an emotional weakness is not good for any gender. It’s a fast growing society with changes being everywhere. So let’s not get attached to any emotional cluster and struggle to break free from it.

Relationships are important. Am stressing here only on the emotionally tangled situations which lead us to nowhere…

Magic of Music

Every soul in this universe enjoys music. The kind of music each listen and enjoy might be different.

But the meaning of it that touches our heart is the same. She can be your best companion for all ages.

Some listen for sheer entertainment, some for peace and some for life!

I personally get all the three from it. There are things in this world which we cannot touch or see but can only feel and music is one such miracle!

The amount of happiness I get by listening to my favourite numbers during a travel is more than expressible. This is when I realized, true happiness lies with you.

Even the worst of your moods can be turned upside down by listening to your favorite song.

Music is in the aura! The space around us has music. The air that sweeps around us has music. The beach with its heavy wave’s gives music, the branches of the trees that sway its leaves gives music, the wind that gushes and swirls the mud gives music, our heart beat gives music, the birds gives music and there’s music even in silence!
Nature is so beautiful that the sense of hearing is given for all living beings to enjoy this!

People are instrumental in bringing out this music having seen what nature gives us. Some are blessed with great mesmerizing voice, some with abundant talent to create music from the seven basic keys of music in all forms!

I have always wondered how different tunes could be produced from the basic 7 keys! Amazing!

Creation of man at its best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The decibels that reach our heart from music are much more than what it gives your ears is my definition of music.

Music touches our soul, gives an inner meaning to an individual and helps in bringing out the best of one.
Indeed music is a blessing in our living to relive and energize ourselves! Just as love touches our hearts showing there’s something more in this materialistic world, so is music I believe.
Let’s cherish the magic moments of every form of music we enjoy and live life in chords!